Tuesday, May 01, 2007

A word to ponder

Integrity : 1 : firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values : INCORRUPTIBILITY 2 : an unimpaired condition : SOUNDNESS 3 : the quality or state of being complete or undivided : COMPLETENESS. synonym see HONESTY

Why is integrity so lacking in the workplace, especially among males? One face shown at home, church, and in public, and a completely other side shown at work? Talk amongst yourselves. I'll listen in :)


cheryl said...

Being in the Human Service field I have come to understand the difference in gender. There are things that I didn't know about the opposite sex before now. I think that this isn't just a male dominated conversation. There are PLENTY female people like this as well. I think in the male perspective there is a higher demand of being the "main man" if you will. They think that they have to adapt to any situation they are in. This goes for males and females.
I think integrity comes natural for some people and some people never seem to find it. I think that integrity comes with age and wisdom. If you have never had a true example of integrity in your life, you don't have anything to go by.
For instance, I have a friend that quit a job where I was, we were best of friends, great coworkers, he left and I told him to keep in touch. He said oh yeah, I will, certainly, well it is like pulling teeth just to get an email out of him. My husband and myself were friends with him and he would even stop by the house, I haven't seen him in a while.
What all this ramble boils down to is sometimes people take their image (of what other people think) and make it what they would want to be or what other people want them to be. It is simple really when you think about it.
If you ask me, its kind of living a lie. You really aren't doing yourself justice to be one way and talk one way but really are another. I think that morals are talked about in such a repiticious way, that they are worn out by being talked about but the people talking about having morals really are lacking in that department.
Hope this helps.

Misty said...

Sometimes men will try to be "big" in front of other men to gain respect, even if it means un-respectable behavior. That behavior unfortunately gains admirers on the same par as the offender, but causes a loss of respect from men who actually have integrity. It's pretty ridiculous--you'd think it would stop after grade school. Thanks for that insightful comment!

Maggie said...

What is integrity?

It's something that is held together by itself. It is whole, made of all the same substance, consistent, through and through, satisfied, content, and noteworthy. Stable.

I think in the definition, we probably find the problems you both mention.

The first, I am terrible at not keeping in touch with old friends...I mean, horrid. It's gotten to the point that I have come to know myself...I just don't like trying to keep track with people God has moved me from. I simply don't have time. I invest myself fully where I am.

On the principle of male "old boys club" stuff, I've come to find that most men who act that way are acting out because they have not learned to truly be filled and satisfied with Christ alone.

They reach for other substitutes...it's not to every single one of those things fail them and hurt them miserably that they generally start to think, "You know, the reason I'm missing all this is because I've screwed up and screwed around from square one. I've got to go back to the beginning, the basics, the One and Only."

I'm sorry you've had to witness that, and I pray we all learn something about integrity from it...such a maturing process, isn't it?

Misty said...

I am horrible at keeping in touch with people too. I subscribe to the whole "people being in your life for a season..." thing. I've moved here and there and it's just hard to keep active relationships going. I do touch base with people every so often just to see how they're doing. Doesn't mean I don't care about them as much, but I have new people nearby to forge relationships with.

My husband has witnessed this integrity problem, or lack thereof, in his position. It's really became a problem this week, so keep him in prayer. He's always tried to be a man of integrity, has a great work ethic and wants to treat his employees fairly. When others don't cooperate, it makes his work very difficult.